There are several things that nearly all bullies do. The first is to turn their own bad behavior into your fault! If a bully hits you, whether with his fists or his bad words or a sneer, and you speak up saying, “Hey! Don’t do that!” the bully will often say, “Do what? I didn’t do anything to you! You knocked into my desk!” The bully, of course, won’t tell anyone that that he tripped you, or punched you or moved his desk in your way. He will always find a way to look suddenly innocent: “What, me? I did that? No way!”
Another mean thing that bullies do is to tell everyone that you do what they are doing: if you call them out on something they are doing wrong, bullies will say, “Oh, well! Look at the bad thing you did over there! That’s worse than I could ever do!” If they can find out anything wrong that you have ever done, they will paint the wrong as black and horrible as they can, even though it might really be something small. They are trying to make everyone look at you instead of at them!
But instead of helping you or being kind to you they make you bad and wrong. If the bully beats you up, he says, “You asked for it! You made me mad!” or, “You egged me on by the way you looked at me!” or, “You got in my way!” even though the bully was already mad, you were looking at something or someone standing behind the bully or the bully got in your way on purpose.
The trouble is, bullies have a way of knowing how to find out where you might have problems or troubles. If they know you are frightened by loud noises they will sneak up on you and make terrible sounds right next to you. And then they will laugh when you say: “Hey! I didn’t like that!” They tease you back saying, “Can’t you take a joke? I was only having fun!” or, “I couldn’t help it! Why are you being meant to me?”