Some people are convinced they are nervous. When they hear a loud sound they jump or flinch; when someone comes in the room the nervous person feels like he or she needs to draw in a bit, as though trying to be invisible. Some people who feel they are nervous talk, all the time: they don’t let anyone else say anything because they are so afraid of what others will say about them that they drown out even the chance of someone saying something bad about them. Other people who feel they have “nerves” cannot seem to get comfortable: they fuss about this or that thing not being right; they fuss and re-arrange pillows, blankets or other things as they are trying to sleep; they need their special types of food, clothing, pillows, their usual phones, pens, favorite scarf or jacket or whatever: they hate to have things change. Some people call them silly; some people call them stupid; some people know that nervous people are nervous for a reason: they have been badly frightened or they have been taught to be nervous or they are actually very, very sensitive.

If someone has been frightened a lot when they are young because of bad arguments in the family on where they live, with shouting, threats, violent rage or even gunfire, of course they will be nervous: they really are not safe where they are, and they are not foolish to flinch, or to keep feeling the fear they were taught to have. This is something very sad, not something to tease anyone about. If someone has been taught to be nervous by someone in their family, by friends who are nervous or even if they are made to be feel nervous by cruel people who feel better when they make someone else weak, this is also very sad. 

But if someone is “nervous” because he or she is is sensitive, then that person not only has to protect him or herself from others, that person needs to give himself love. To be sensitive is like seeing color! It’s like hearing sounds that no one else can. Being sensitive means that this person can see further than others, deeper than many, and can learn things that everyone actually needs to know, if only they are left in a quiet place to do it. 

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