Many feel that people came from somewhere special: from Heaven, or were made fresh and new from the Place off All Life. And for most this is truth. But many others realize that our bodies were made from the Earth. The food that you eat, the water you drink and the air that you breathe are all from the planet. So you could believe that you are a bit of the Earth that has woken up!
Now: all animals grow their bodies from the Earth the same way, and your own body knows it is not much different than theirs. So there will be times when you act like an animal: not because it is you, but because it is easier. It’s always easier to do something you’re done before than it is to do something new! But if you are lazy like that too often, then you forget that you are not an animal. You are a human being,
Animals fight. But do human beings really need to fight, or is it just easier to give in to the animal part of you? Animals drive away any member of the herd that is different. But human beings know that sometimes the different ones are the ones that will have the best way to do something, because only the different ones could think of the new way. Even animals protect the most experienced among them, because they can lead the herd or troupe into the best places for food and safety. These leaders are the ones that care about the herd, troupe or flock. They are the ones that care for others than themselves.
But sometimes it seems that even human beings forget this, and that is very sad. It is easy to live like an animal. But animals are already doing that! Human beings can be human. Animals cannot. Why should human beings ever want to act like animals?
Sometimes, when you and a friend have an argument, you both feel the other one is wrong, and you are right, and you stay mad at each other forever. But there may be times when you have to get along, so you need to think of ways of doing that.
The first thing to remember is: say that your biology teacher has told you to go into the woods and identify a certain type of tree. You may find that when you are standing on one side of the same tree, and your friend is standing on the other side, you may see the same tree, but that tree will look totally different. On your side it will have 12 branches; on your friend’s side it will have only 10. On your side maybe most of the leaves have been blown away, but on your friend’s side the branches look like they have a lot of leaves. It’s the same tree, and you’re both looking at it, but you both see things so differently!
The way to start talking without arguing and calling each other wrong is to start with those things that you do agree on: are you both looking at this tree to find out what species it is? Then that is something you can agree upon. Do you both like the woods, or do you both hate walking around on the leaves? Are by both tired of the assignment your biology teacher gave you? Do you both like the pretty clouds you can see above the trees?
And even though one of you might hate the woods, and the other love it; even though you may enjoy the biology teacher a lot and your friend may hate the class, you can always look for something to agree on. The real thing is: keep looking for things you agree on, and then start discussing the tree when you agree, not when you disagree. This is the best way to work together, especially when you must.
Changing things can be very hard, and it can be especially hard when you nave to make a change that you don’t want to because it’s scary or uncomfortable. Sometimes you don’t want to change because you are being asked to change in a way you don’t understand. You may be visiting a relative for a long time and have to change what you usually do: there is nothing in the relative’s house that is like the one you live in. Maybe you have to change something that you have done the same way for years. Maybe someone shows that you have to change because you’ve done something incorrect or wrong. That can be difficult because it’s often so hard to admit you were wrong!
This is not surprising: when doing something incorrectly or wrong means that you get yelled at, and you are told you are bad and need to fix it. That is always hard: no one wants to feel that he is wrong! You don’t want to have to fix something you because it’s new and scary: you’ve never fixed this before and you don’t know how. And if you do it wrong when you are trying to fix it, that makes it so much worse, because you get yelled at more than once. Sometimes you feel like giving up.
But when you have to change things, or when things have changed that you don’t want to change, it can help to remember the things that haven’t changed after all. Even if it’s silly things, such as remind yourself that your nose is still in the same place on your face and your eyes are the same color they were yesterday and haven’t turned orange or green instead. By finding things that haven’t changed, you will feel at least a little better, so that the thing that has changed or that you must change yourself, seems a little easier now.