The worst hangover from some families is the saying, “Now see what you made me do!” It’s blaming someone for having power over you, and then you can punish them for how you feel. But you do not take responsibility for giving away your power in the first place. and sometimes this is because you are afraid of your own power.
If you have the power to choose, you can’t blame anyone, not really. You have to take responsibility for how you feel and how you react to things. Yes, there are some times when that kind of choice is hard, but this is something you can do every day, for the little things. When you take responsibility for how you feel, you develop strength in the center of who you are. Then you can go out into the world, and not get shaken up by every little thing.