Sometimes, things happen to us that are quite unexpected, and they can be frightening and unsettling. A favorite teacher suddenly leaves to get married; a good friend has to move away or another friend has to stay with her grandmother’s for the whole summer. Change can be very hard, especially if it isn’t a change we made happen ourselves, because we suddenly feel like things are controlling us. It’s scary!
We like things the way we like them because when things are going the way we want, we can relax. We can just be calm and quiet and when we’re calm and quiet we can do things,learn things, discover things or try out new ideas. But if we’ve been living for a while, we learn that we are not in control all the time: we have to learn how to deal with changes. But what do you do when everything suddenly seems wrong. frightening or to huge for us to handle?
One way is to keep some things the same as they always were, even very small things. If you have always had two cookies for lunch, do your best to keep on having two cookies for lunch, If you have always woken up at 7:30, keep on waking up then if at all possible. These things become something you can hang on to when your life is being shaken apart.
But if the changes and the shaking and the unexpected things are just to large, just too impossible, then you have to go inside of yourself, and find out what you know about your self. When everyone around you is suddenly acting crazy, do you still feel that honesty matters? When everything around you changes, do you still know that beautiful things are important? When people seem to be acting weird and strange, do you still think that friends matter, that the best way to have a friend is to be one and that you are always willing to do right by your friends?
These are not little things. But if you can keep things the same inside of yourself, it can help when the world around you changes everything.