There is a good saying: “A person is known by how he or she acts when no one is watching.” If you are a person with true ethics, you don’t always have to have someone tell you what to do, when to do it, and you really don’t have to have someone watching over you to see that you do it or to force you to do what you have said you would.
But the real thing is: if you have to depend upon someone else to do the right thing; if you have to be watched to do the right thing; if you cannot do things well when ho one is watching, then you’re weak! You have to have a crutch to walk, to work, to do as you say, to do anything well, to do something important that you care about: you aren’t strong enough to do it by yourself!
Is that really the way you want to be?
Some people say: I hate it when someone tells me what to do! And then too many of you go off and get into messes you could have avoided because you could not trust yourself, you could not trust your ethics. If you think that seat belts in your car are too confining, try living in a wheelchair for the rest of your life because you wanted to do what you wanted to do and didn’t trouble yourself to think ahead: if you make one tiny mistake in a car you will crash it. The car is bigger, heavier and a lot tougher than you are. When you’re in an accident, you’ll likely get damaged. And what put you into that accident? Not thinking things through!
And if you take drugs: they will tell you what to do all the time. “Steal money, hurt the ones you love, make yourself ill and sick and stupid, because you want me. I’ve made you want me!” And if you hang out with others that think they know what they are doing, and they really don’t, what do you think would happen when they don’t know how to handle a sudden, big emergency?
To be continued…
There is an old saying: Do what you love for a living and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.” There is a lot of truth in this: if you wake up in the morning and you know you are going to do something you enjoy, of course you will feel happy. One of the strange things is, though, that sometimes doing something you love and doing something you hate may be doing the same thing, the same type of work, but your feelings about the work is different.
For instance: if you have a friend who’s gone away and he or she has asked you to take care of his or her dog, and you really love your friend and you love dogs, then all the walking throwing balls, cleaning up the street and so on will be fun, all the way around: you will finish the dog-walking and feel full of happy energy. However, if you really don’t like dogs, and you have to take care of your mean and nasty neighbor’s dog, you will be doing the same kinds of things like putting the leash on the dog, throwing sticks or balls for it and so on, but you will drag through the day.
In the first case of course you were doing something you love; in the second case you were doing something you didn’t like and didn’t even want to do. The first was fun, the second was work.
It’s sad, that work seems to mean something you hate to do, that wears you out, that is almost more trouble than you can give it. But if you’re wise, you will look for the things you can enjoy in anything, and find ways to enjoy work whatever you are doing. Sometimes it will take a lot of thought and you will have to be inventive. However, you will find that looking for enjoyment in you work will be well worth it.
There are three things that are magic about work. The first magic is that, when you do something, especially if it’s difficult, you feel better when you have done it: you feel good and successful, good and competent and able. If you do things that are too easy all the time, guess what: you feel like you’re not very good, or even that you’re not worth very much. Strange, isn’t it? But it’s really true: when you do something hard, you feel much better about yourself.
The second magic thing about work is that the more you do it the easier it gets; you know this from your own experience with almost everything but you may not know why. The first time you tried to read a book: that was hard, wasn’t it? But now, if you have kept up reading books, you find reading so easy and so fun. The first time you learned how to skate or ride a bicycle or a horse, it was hard: you didn’t know what to do and so you had to learn, and learn, and learn some more. But after a while your body did all the remembering for you: you didn’t have to think about riding or skating or dancing: you just did it! So the second magic, that your body remembers what you’ve learned with it, is why things get easier with time. In fact, after a while you and your body love to move, to work, to swim or jump, run or ride. Not only is it easy it’s fun!
The third magic about work is that you can make even hard work easy if you just think about it a little bit. When some people work, they sing or whistle; they work with someone else so that they can talk to the other person. An old American saying is, “Many hands make light work,” ant that is often true. Two hundred years ago, people plowed fields, built barns, milked cows every morning and so many other things, and they knew all these three magic things about work.