Monthly Archives: April 2017

Being creative

A lot of us think that being creative means to make something artistic: a painting, a song or poem, perhaps something even more special like designing a building or a good computer game. We think that in order to be creative we have to make something that other people can see, and that other people can judge, value, and buy or not buy. In other words, you might feel you can only be creative when other people know about it! Some of you really want other people to know about things inside of you, so you create chaos, or bad feelings, or unhappiness because those things are inside of you and you don’t know how to explain them or understand them, so you make them get out of you by spreading them around.

But think about it: you can always create peace inside of yourself. You can always create happiness inside of yourself. Creating bad feelings inside of yourself and others seems so easy: that’s because it’s easier to break something, to push it over, than it is to build something. But, since you can create happiness when you really want to create it, then you can create any other good thing: joy, enthusiasm, satisfaction or peace, When you understand this, you can even create new energy just for yourself, inside your self.

This kind of creativity can start by thinking instead of feeling: think about what happiness is, what it feels like and what it can change in your life. When you are happier, you are kinder, When you are feeling joyful, you want to share every good thing you know with anyone that might be interested. When you are feeling enthusiasm you begin things on time, finish them early and then can relax. When you feel satisfied, especially when you have created that feeling on your own, you don’t feel hungry for noise or drama or making things break. When you feel peace a little bit, you stop and think before you say anything. When you feel peace very deeply, you know the right thing to say to people when they are hurting, because Peace is very wise. 

When in Doubt, Lead from the Heart

Many year ago, I read a beautiful phrase in a book: “When in doubt, do the loving thing,”

To me, that is such a fine way to live. There are so many times when you don’t know what to do; there are so many times when things are difficult, puzzling, or sometimes even scary. You can hide your fear with anger; you can keep people away from you by being mean and belligerent, or you can stay away from everyone and not do anything. None of these ideas work very well and they certainly don’t make you feel happier. A lot of these ways are easy: sometimes it takes a lot of thinking to come up with a loving way, And sometimes you really don’t know what to do. But if you can’t do anything else, just feel your heart and feel the love in it.

You might be quite surprised that a new answer about what to do with the difficult or uncomfortable situation you are in will suddenly be there. The loving thing is not only “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” That certainly works better than being mean to people because you feel sad or tired or afraid. But sometimes, if you like something and you would really love it if someone else did it for you or gave it to you, you have to remember: not everyone likes what you do. Not everyone wants what you do.

So a better version is, “Do NOT do unto others as you would NOT want them to do unto you.” This means, after you start with the basics like, “I don’t like to be called bad names,” and, “I don’t like to have something mean done to me, then you think about how that other person is different than you are, and how you could show your love to them with something they like, and by not doing something they don’t like.